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PostPosted: Thu Aug 26, 2010 6:29 pm    Post subject: useful tips part 1 and 2  Reply with quote

I would like to share my story with you in the hope that someone might read this & it helps.  I had vaginaism:

I had botox injections twice, my muscles did not really relax, so botox did not work for me.  The second time round that I had the injections, I must have had some sort of allergic reaction as I had pain in my vagina & had to go & see doctors, which of course didn't help as they wanted to inspect & I was able for them to insert a finger or have a ultra sound.  They had never heard of a patient having botox so that did not make me feel great.  Thankfully the pain eased as the botox wore off.

Then I had a breakthrough, I went for counselling, I talked a lot about my past, but I wanted to more than to talk I needed to have support with physical steps of inserting dialators.  I was very fortunate to be refered to a hospital that deals with vaginismus & had counselled many women.  I would like to share the treatment I underwent in the hope it encourages you to seek good support.

We had to take a week off work & I was given a week of appointments & my partner had to attend alongside me.  we each had to explain our goal & we talked about the hurt & pain we felt.  The next day we went into this room, I started to insert the very smallest dialator with alot of lubricant.  Lubricant is very important, (dunk the tube in hot water for few seconds to make it runny)I used to think that I did not like the feel of lubricant, but after encouragement from the doctor I squirted loads on & inserted the smallest dialator.  The thing that helped me the most mentally is that the doctor asked me to insert the dialator again, that confirmed to me that I wasn't just lucky.  I was successful with the next size up dialator.  Then we were told - oh running out of space will continue
to do something enjoyable together, so we went to the beach.  Later that day we had to practice inserting the 2 small dialators, each time twice, if possible with my hand guiding my partner inserted the dialator, then we rewarded ourselves with a meal out.
The next day at the clinic I inserted all 4 dialators, twice each dialator, we rewarded ourselves with lunch out & practiced at home.  If i felt a burning sensation, a good trick is to blow out with yr mouth & make yr cheeks go big like a hamsters.
I am now able to have intercourse, I don't move around much but I'm so happy.
The key is to:
practice regularly with dialators
use warm lubricant
reward yourself
talk out your anxieties as your dialating
hear the praise from your partner
much luck to you all, I know how hard this is but you can overcome vaginismus
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 3:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

thank you for sharing this London.
We are very skeptical about Botox and do not recommend it
so your story may help those who still aren't sure about it.

Would you mind if we added it to our page on Botox on the website?
No pressure.

By the way, I edited your post so that all the tips are now in one single post.
I also removed it from the section on Sarah's journal cause it didn't fit in there. Hope you don't mind.

Congrats for where you're at now and thank you again.
"Vaginismus isn't the problem, the way society looks at sex is"
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 5:45 pm    Post subject: Admin request-botox Reply with quote

I am happy for you to use my post on the botox page. When I think about it, having the injections was very difficult as I couldn't relax & open my legs, what I went through TWICE was unthinkable & I really wish I hadn'tput myself through so much stress, physical & mental. Dialators are the way to go & relaxing & praise

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